Bitches, bitches., bitches. So many bitches

Before I start I would just like to clarify that this article isn't my own, its is a friend of mine Jennie Leighton's - Check out her blog and this article here: CLICK ME

I read this and thought, you know what this is so true and a really good message to be shared with everyone. I think Jennie describes it perfectly and its something that usually will effect us all although sometimes its not always as noticeable as others...

Over to Jennie and her powerful words. . .

" It's come to my realisation that sometimes people really do have an inability to be nice. Jealousy and bitterness rule and humanity and humility are somewhere absent with other non existent phenomena - like God for example. We've all been there; going through school with years of torment, some of the hardest and most unpleasant years of any life; and if you haven't experienced this; you're either lucky or you were the bitches making others lives hell - well done; good for you; has it made you a better person? Why do people get so much pleasure from trying to make another individuals life miserable? Do they get joy from it? Probably not. If they do it will be exceptionally fleeting. Then their lives will go back to being as pathetic and unfulfilled as they were in the moments leading up to their most recent 'bitch fest'. How do I know their lives are pathetic and unfulfilled? I know this because if they were full and happy they wouldn't feel the need to obsess over others. Isn't it funny how people will comment on someones personality being 'bad' while sitting in front of their computer screens typing some inane, immature and quite frankly poor attempts at insults on their twitter/facebook account. Although lets face it; they're probably too idiotic to even realise the irony. 

Jealousy really is the most unattractive and soul destroying trait in a person. And let me tell you, it controls such a huge proportion of the population. Especially young, not yet mature enough to realise the ridiculousness of their actions, school girls. It becomes an obsession. And then comes the "Oh, she thinks we're jealous of her. Don't flatter yourself".  Ha. Ha. Ha. Jealousy is the ONLY thing there is to account for your actions my darling. THE ONLY THING. And no. The girl on the other end of all your bullshit is not 'full of herself' to believe that you're jealous of her. She's realistic. Because if you REALLY thought she was a horrible person; a person with bad hair; a person with bad makeup;  a person with a bad body; a person with nothing to offer; you wouldn't bother with her. Not one single bit. Do you want to know why? Because you wouldn't feel threatened by her. The reason you have so much animosity towards that girl is because you want something she has. You believe her to be somewhat 'better' than you. Your own insecurity has made you obsessed with the notion that in order to elevate yourself to a level that you consider 'above' her you must slander her in as many ways as you can. Because stating everything that is 'wrong' with her must automatically illuminate everything that is so perfect about you. Right? WRONG. It makes you look like a bitter, twisted, pathetic excuse of a woman. Someone that no one in their right mind would trust or have time for. Someone with so many deep rooted obsessions and insecurities that anyone with half a brain cell would run a mile in the opposite direction of you; because guess what? Once you've finished with your current 'enemy' you'll turn on your current friend.

"I don't care if you hate me; I don't think about you at all"

It really is a sad existence when you still feel the compelling need to try and batter somebody when you really and truly never even cross their minds. It's utterly embarrassing that your obsession with trying to bring someone down in order to make yourself feel or 'look' better in front of other (probably just as mediocre) people, has continued even past the removal of that individual from your immediate 'world'. Thats when its possibly time to call in a shrink and have your head checked because the probability is that you're crazed. So why do you do it? For acceptance? From who? The other bitter girls around you? The boys who you think will like you more if you batter another? Your parents? Your siblings? Who? For yourself? Whatever your answer; it won't work. You will fail. No one will think you're any better because of your pitiful actions. Not in the long run anyway. And your insecure mind will continue to be so. Until eventually you might have the luck of having children. Maybe a little girl. Maybe a little boy. And god forbid you have to feel the hurt that takes over while watching them get tormented by those same arse holes that you embody. Or maybe you'll grow out of it when you leave the superficial 'stage' that is secondary school and you enter the real world where people cut your bullshit short. Or maybe you'll end up like those sad, sad, middle aged women on 'The Real Housewives of wherever' - bitching until the day you die no less happy and no less content - all the while having A LOT less money but just as ugly faces. Because you know what they say; you are what you speak. Speak ugly words and you'll become them. Whatever your 'reasons' for being such a 'mean girl/boy' how about you take the time to just, not? When you feel the need to write something hurtful on a social network, or endeavour to make someone feel like shit, go away and eat a fucking lemon or something. 

I'm sure you'll ponder this and immediately dismiss it because the person you're currently trying to belittle 'really does deserve it' and you're not really a blinkered, disturbed, insecure and spiteful person with an inability to look past your disgraceful actions. And then the cycle will continue. 

And for anyone on the receiving end of another persons insecure projections; just know that if someone is treating you in this way, you are already better than them .

Article by jennieinabox

I hope you enjoyed a little something different in a guest post today! Hopefully for some it will make you feel like you're not the only one, and for others make you feel stronger! 

O x

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Personal Style

" I love clothes, always have and always will! .

Thats the way it started off for me, just some clothes, some highstreet shops and a love for creativity and putting things together. Now whether my creativity and inspiration came from dance, my auntie (who pretty much introduced me to fashion) or I just found that I needed something to act as my armour while going to an all girls grammar school, I don't know. But I didn't start off having the mother who worked for Grazia and Daddy in the Dior head marketing department. I started off wanting good grades, good friends and something to strive for. That was never fashion related until quite recently. 

I worked hard at school (but to be honest, going to a grammar you have no choice but to!) I took all the usual GCSE's and then went on to A-level took 4 (I'm a nerd) English, History, Dance and Performing Arts, I became community captain and then went onto get into Roehampton University to study dance! Boom - No fashion involved! 

I guess throughout that time, my style adapted! I remember my trips to Manchester involving more than just my train (or plane when I was really little) fare! My Auntie Lisa was like my queen of fashion, she would trapse me round Manchester and the Trafford centre, Sale, Stockport and wherever else we went, and I LOVED every minute of it! Getting in on all the new trends that hadn't come down to Kent yet and just being inspired by it all! 

Dancing here, there, and everywhere and getting into breakdancing I guess my style created an 'add tab' to it and went from 'Latest Trend' to a bit of an Urban feel! I guess all my experiences and taste in style just kept adding tabs to my style feed to take me to where I am now. Being around all girls throughout school, I'm sure I don't need to tell you how bitchy it can be (although I have to say, I loved school! And it wasn't THAT bad!). Especially when I came into sixth form and the teachers were no longer having a go at me for never wearing shoes (odd ball!) the pressure was on even more to try and look good! (looking back I do think some of the things I wore were hideous) Nevertheless creating new outfits everyday to try and make something look different to the week I wore it before probably gave me the confidence I have now to try out new things. merge genres and styles together to create something different.

 My old flat mates at University were always saying how my style changed from day-to-day and that I didn't fit into a category, and my flat mates now are asking me to dress them and re-vamp their wardrobes. My friend the other week said I looked like something that should be in Vogue (I clearly don't, but all the same it was a nice thing to say), but juxtaposing that my flatmate said I was the only Urban Dresser she knew! A very strange mix of Urban Vogue! 

When asked about my fashion identity in a lecture I said that I didn't fit into one, that I liked to believe I was a little bit of everything, whatever took my fancy and I thought I could pull off! 

But when we were then asked who else thought they fitted into that category, or who strived to be individual at least half the class raised their hand. So maybe thats a category in itself, striving to be different. 

Now I would say there is a difference between being individual and then being a bit of everything. There is no way that I can pull off some of the things these people can...hence why they stood out to me when taking photos for my street style brief.

BUT, I am a bit of everything, so I overlap in the pie chart of stereotypes, and I'm fine with that. Im not confident enough to try and be REALLY out there (at least not yet), but I'm not one that always fits into the generic. But I'm also not one that wants to fit into anything else. 

I have a fettish for coats and trainers (and some shoes in general). I adore scarves and hats! And I have a love for all clothes from pretty much anywhere! I'm still trying to get to grips with the whole 'A Woman can never have too many bags' thing! because personally I just buy one and then that does me for a year or so until I see another. 

Find me a good charity shop and ill be in heaven (okay so I do love bags from charity shops, but thats different! they're always really cute and small!). I love to add a bit of vintage or the latest pair of Kicks! And then all the generic stuff really Topshop, Urban Zara...you know how it goes. 

Its not what you wear, its how you wear it. 

Confidence is the best thing a girl can wear, other than a smile of course!

O x

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Discovering Delilahs

Staring today off early I was up at 8, checked my phone, my emails, text my Dad (as he is usually the only other person up at that time, even though he is 3 hours ahead...he's an early riser) got ready for my lectures and set off for the day ahead. 10 minutes into our 'supposed' lecture and we are all engrossed in conversation about our latest New York Trend booklet, and how my friend Immi is a genius on Indesign, with everything she creates looking like it should be a part of Conde Nast! And our lecturer comes in and tells us our (hour earlier than usual) lecture has been canceled! Safe to say we were both pissed and happy (if thats possible), pissed because we had got up at what felt like the crack of dawn, and happy because it meant we could all go back to bed. 

Obviously getting up at 8 (because its super early!) no one has time for breakfast. So Ellie, Immi and I decided we would treat ourselves (for getting up SO early) to a nice little breakfast! Having heard of great recommendations about Delilah in Nottingham before, I suggested we go there (the other 2 have been previously and literally SANG its praises). Not to mention the fact that it was featured on 'Jamie and Jimmys Friday Night Feast', something to do with a rare cheese apparently!

Anyway walking up to Lace Market in Nottingham and Immi is talking some crap about "if you look for it, you'll never see it" sounds like it was something that crazy lady with the tea leaves says in Harry Potter! Finally we arrive, now I was expecting a cute little cafe with china teacups and scones, but Delilahs is huge! Its a mix of your grocery store, Italian pastas and a cafe all in one! Its BEAUTIFUL, with its high ceilings and large windows, on a sunny morning like today it seemed like the perfect place to be! Thank god for cancelled early morning lectures eh! 

Now there is nothing worse than having food that doesn't live up to the place its served in. Live Weatherspoons, its cheap, simple and a little bit grimy - you're never going to expect a 5* meal, but you know what you're paying for. Well luckily Delilahs did just that! Its food is just as incredible as the place itself...and we only went for breakfast! I can't wait to check it out for lunch and dinner sometime too! 

 Salmon, Scrambled Eggs and Mushroom with a slice of Toast.

My friend Ellie is currently on a detox, where she can only have fruits and pulses (whatever that means). Hands up to her, she didn't cheat! I know in that place I would have done, but what was really nice is that they catered for her needs. So for those of you out there who are gluten free or dairy free - there are always options available for you if you just ask, or customise a plate yourself as my friend Ellie did! 

Rye Bread, Tomatoes and Spinach topped with Olive Oil.

If you're ever in Nottingham, give it a try :)

O x

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To Come

Every now and again we have those days where we just want to give up on everything. No one is our friend, we are hated by all and we look gross. Well just remember, this is just a day, not a life. We create our life so why not live the life we have always imagined. For me this is travelling and experiences, thats the life I dream! Being the organised Dora The Explorer I am I like to have plans in place and get things booked as soon as possible. We all have those years where we SAY we are going to do all these things, but we never actually do! I vowed not to have one of those years this year, so everything you see below has been planned and paid for (except for the 21st, thats a work in progress!). Always looking for more, I'm hoping I can also squeeze in a mini holiday with my boy and skiing in the winter as I keep having the craving to go! For some of you it may just be getting the girls together for a cute get away in cornwall, or organising the holiday you've been talking about for years with your partner but you just don't have the money right now. A little note from me, do everything you can, when you can! If you keep putting things off you may never get the chance, and we only regret the things we don't do, not the things we do :) 

O x

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Classy Cocktails: What She Wore

As you may have read in my flashback over January 2014 I recently discovered CoCo Tang, and have since being there created a craving for their Toblerone Cocktails! If you live in Nottingham and have no yet experienced them I would definitely recommend going! You can either sit down for a couple and have a chat, or go all out and throw some shapes on the dance floor! 

So I went for the second time last week and had, as always, a wicked time! I didn't go too over the top dressy but wore a loose fitting Urban Outfitters dress, accompanied by a Topshop thick black belt and my signature Topshop chunky heels :) As you may know already, in my eyes, comfort is key every time!! 

O x

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Flashback over January '14

Again, I'm not exactly very good with keeping up to date with my flash backs over the months! But as you may have seen, January was a pretty busy one for me! Kicked off the year with a trip to Tiffanys! :) 

- I received my second lot of Tiffany blue boxes as a bloated 20th birthday present :)

- I was given flowers by Mini

- I got my second new mini (this time I went to the dark side!)

- I went to New York City for the 3rd time. I think I fall in love with the city more every time I go there

- I booked a trip to Edinburgh with my Boyfriend 

- I had my first trip to CoCo Tang in Nottingham and fell in love yet again! The Toblerone cocktails are to die for! 

- I re-vamped my blog and got back into the blogging scene

- I started my kick of healthy eating and discovered that my friend Immi is an awesome cook!

- I had my first team picture with Trent Dance First Team :) 

- I had my first 2 weeks of all nighters trying to get all my work done for my deadline (THE most stressful 2 weeks of my life)

- I went to Edinburgh with my boyfriend and had the most amazing time, I didn't want to leave . . . to be continued into February :)

O x

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NYC Lookbook

A couple of my favourite outfits from the inspiration of the incredible city around me! I know it might sound stupid but being somewhere new, does give you the confidence to try things out that you never would do back home, like big fur coats with Dr. Martens! (it does always help when you have the excuse of -14 weather conditions).
Its a given that New York was incredible, but one of the most important things I took away from it was how much it taught me about myself. My confidence to just trust myself, being in a big city, getting lost and finding my way out. By the time I left 5 days later I felt as though I could happily live in New York alone and navigate my way around. I tried out different outfits and sales )and came home with a new wardrobe) that I just would never have the confidence to do back home. I also realised that I need to not compare what artistic background I have to others, I've got to fashion through a different route, and different doesn't always mean bad, its just different :)

Anyway here is my little New York Lookbook for the 5 days that I spent there (lets remember that I was wearing at least 8 layers on top and 3 on the bottom to keep me warm!)  :)

DAY ONE

DAY TWO

DAY THREE

DAY FOUR

DAY FIVE

Thats my fashion look book for New York pretty much summed up really. Primarily my main focus was researching New York so I didn't get loads of time for selfies, but you get the gist . . . but if you didn't then this should sum it up. I went to New York having never worn Dr. Martens before, and came back with 2 pairs (black and white) plus some Timberlands (and much more!) 

O x

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