Before I start I would just like to clarify that this article isn't my own, its is a friend of mine Jennie Leighton's - Check out her blog and this article here: CLICK ME
I read this and thought, you know what this is so true and a really good message to be shared with everyone. I think Jennie describes it perfectly and its something that usually will effect us all although sometimes its not always as noticeable as others...
Over to Jennie and her powerful words. . .
" It's come to my realisation that sometimes people really do have an inability to be nice. Jealousy and bitterness rule and humanity and humility are somewhere absent with other non existent phenomena - like God for example. We've all been there; going through school with years of torment, some of the hardest and most unpleasant years of any life; and if you haven't experienced this; you're either lucky or you were the bitches making others lives hell - well done; good for you; has it made you a better person? Why do people get so much pleasure from trying to make another individuals life miserable? Do they get joy from it? Probably not. If they do it will be exceptionally fleeting. Then their lives will go back to being as pathetic and unfulfilled as they were in the moments leading up to their most recent 'bitch fest'. How do I know their lives are pathetic and unfulfilled? I know this because if they were full and happy they wouldn't feel the need to obsess over others. Isn't it funny how people will comment on someones personality being 'bad' while sitting in front of their computer screens typing some inane, immature and quite frankly poor attempts at insults on their twitter/facebook account. Although lets face it; they're probably too idiotic to even realise the irony.
Jealousy really is the most unattractive and soul destroying trait in a person. And let me tell you, it controls such a huge proportion of the population. Especially young, not yet mature enough to realise the ridiculousness of their actions, school girls. It becomes an obsession. And then comes the "Oh, she thinks we're jealous of her. Don't flatter yourself". Ha. Ha. Ha. Jealousy is the ONLY thing there is to account for your actions my darling. THE ONLY THING. And no. The girl on the other end of all your bullshit is not 'full of herself' to believe that you're jealous of her. She's realistic. Because if you REALLY thought she was a horrible person; a person with bad hair; a person with bad makeup; a person with a bad body; a person with nothing to offer; you wouldn't bother with her. Not one single bit. Do you want to know why? Because you wouldn't feel threatened by her. The reason you have so much animosity towards that girl is because you want something she has. You believe her to be somewhat 'better' than you. Your own insecurity has made you obsessed with the notion that in order to elevate yourself to a level that you consider 'above' her you must slander her in as many ways as you can. Because stating everything that is 'wrong' with her must automatically illuminate everything that is so perfect about you. Right? WRONG. It makes you look like a bitter, twisted, pathetic excuse of a woman. Someone that no one in their right mind would trust or have time for. Someone with so many deep rooted obsessions and insecurities that anyone with half a brain cell would run a mile in the opposite direction of you; because guess what? Once you've finished with your current 'enemy' you'll turn on your current friend.
"I don't care if you hate me; I don't think about you at all"
It really is a sad existence when you still feel the compelling need to try and batter somebody when you really and truly never even cross their minds. It's utterly embarrassing that your obsession with trying to bring someone down in order to make yourself feel or 'look' better in front of other (probably just as mediocre) people, has continued even past the removal of that individual from your immediate 'world'. Thats when its possibly time to call in a shrink and have your head checked because the probability is that you're crazed. So why do you do it? For acceptance? From who? The other bitter girls around you? The boys who you think will like you more if you batter another? Your parents? Your siblings? Who? For yourself? Whatever your answer; it won't work. You will fail. No one will think you're any better because of your pitiful actions. Not in the long run anyway. And your insecure mind will continue to be so. Until eventually you might have the luck of having children. Maybe a little girl. Maybe a little boy. And god forbid you have to feel the hurt that takes over while watching them get tormented by those same arse holes that you embody. Or maybe you'll grow out of it when you leave the superficial 'stage' that is secondary school and you enter the real world where people cut your bullshit short. Or maybe you'll end up like those sad, sad, middle aged women on 'The Real Housewives of wherever' - bitching until the day you die no less happy and no less content - all the while having A LOT less money but just as ugly faces. Because you know what they say; you are what you speak. Speak ugly words and you'll become them. Whatever your 'reasons' for being such a 'mean girl/boy' how about you take the time to just, not? When you feel the need to write something hurtful on a social network, or endeavour to make someone feel like shit, go away and eat a fucking lemon or something.
I'm sure you'll ponder this and immediately dismiss it because the person you're currently trying to belittle 'really does deserve it' and you're not really a blinkered, disturbed, insecure and spiteful person with an inability to look past your disgraceful actions. And then the cycle will continue.
And for anyone on the receiving end of another persons insecure projections; just know that if someone is treating you in this way, you are already better than them .
Article by jennieinabox
I hope you enjoyed a little something different in a guest post today! Hopefully for some it will make you feel like you're not the only one, and for others make you feel stronger!
O x
